Service, not work. That’s what she does. She’s a public ally, a hope giver. Dianne Barber.
We often think of service as selfless, as a giving of ourselves. But being a public ally also means being an ally to one's self.
Self-respect. Ironically, in our often-narcissistic world, the frequently missing ingredient appears to be a healthy measure of self-respect. So many of the problems in our world arise because we don’t respect ourselves. If we’re missing this ingredient, how then is it possible to respect and help others?
Can self-respect be taught? Well if it can’t be taught, it certainly can be learned. Dianne is evidence of this. I asked her what negative self-beliefs from childhood she’s been able to discard.
She was always giving, always helping, but didn’t know how to ask for help. Now, she knows herself. She says it’s more important to love yourself for who you are than trying to be someone others want you to be.
Along with self-respect comes hope.
Hopelessness lends itself to not thinking, to not caring. Dianne, in her work at Sabathani Community Center seeks to give kids hope and a sense of direction. She says that trust provides a base for encouraging a sense of hope.
Which brings us to happiness. For Dianne, happiness is living out her values- in understanding her self-worth (having self-respect), giving people a sense of hope, and possessing integrity and honesty.